07/06/15 – DISCULPARSE

THIS WEEK’S THEME: DISCULPARSE

I used the Spanish word for apologize because I know so many are apology challenged and I didn’t want to scare those of you that are nonapologists  away from my blog.

I read an interesting article in the Sunday, June 28, 2015 New York Times by Laura Zigman.  The article was titled, Sorry – A Nonapologist’s Apology.

The article made some interesting points about people with fragile self-esteem preferring to offer explanations (aka excuses) to admitting they were  wrong and offering a sincere apology without an excuse.

I cover the topic of apologizing in Chapter 32 of my book, Apologize–Without Being Asked, and Never Ask for an Apology.

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This week’s recommendation is a book that I have possessed for over 20 years.  It is George Washington’s Rules of Civility & Decent Behavior.  It doesn’t really address the need to apologize; but given that the Fourth of July weekend just ended and it was written by George Washington when he was 14 years old, I think it says a lot more than what it actually says.

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Copied out by hand as a young man aspiring to the status of Gentleman, the 110 precepts which make up this work were based on a set of rules composed by French Jesuits in 1595. The first English edition of these rules was available in Francis Hawkins’ Youths Behavior, or Decency in Conversation Amongst Men, which appeared in 1640, and it is from this work that George Washington seems to have copied. However much he may have simplified them, these precepts had a strong influence on Washington, who aimed to always live by them. The rules focus on self-respect and respect for others through details of etiquette and offer pointers on such issues as how to dress, walk, eat in public, and address one’s superiors. (Source: Amazon / Barnes & Nobles)

MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I found some great “apology” scenes, but I just didn’t feel the scene was worth the viewing of the entire movie, so instead I am going to apologize and recommend you watch one of the four Pirates of the Caribbean films.  Surely, there are some apologies somewhere in these films.  My favorite still being the first one, The Curse of the Black Pearl.  I understand a fifth film is to be released July 7, 2017; titled Dead Men Tell No Tails.

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QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“Never ruin an apology with an excuse.”

Source: Benjamin Franklin

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THIS WEEK’S POLL 

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON USA RELATIONS WITH OTHER COUNTRIES

Over 50% of you believe the USA tries to be fair in its dealings with other countries, but makes many mistakes.  However, there is a sizable number of you (35%) that believe the USA is more interested in advancing its own interests than letting other countries follow their own course.

THIS WEEK’S JOKES

 

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CONCLUSION

Since we are wrapping up the Fourth of July weekend here in the USA, I thought I would post a video of this year’s International Freedom Festival fireworks display on the Detroit River between Canada and the USA.

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06/08/15 – Raw

THIS WEEK’S THEME: WINNING

This Friday, I will be in the National Raw (without wraps or similar items) Deadlift Competition for my category (Men, 65 to 69, weighing 198 or a little less).  So this week’s theme comes from Chapter 52 – “Winning” from my book.

But I didn’t select the theme because I expect to win in my category, although at my age I am often the only one who shows up.  I selected the theme because in my book, I start this chapter’s narrative with the sentence, “You will never ever be extraordinary until you stop being concerned with becoming a winner …”

I can’t recall the gang that said this to me years ago, when I expressed my doubts as to my being up to their standards, but I do recall what I was told.  You don’t have to win; you just have to fight.

Strange, where good advice comes from and the circumstances that bring it forth, but good advice is good advice period.  I long since modified that last line to say, “You just have to try.”

 

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It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want To Be” by Paul Arden is one of the most easy to read books I have come across, and it makes a strong case in my opinion for trying–you just may succeed.  I will say one thing for certain, if you don’t try; you will definitely not succeed.

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If you are at all interested in being extraordinary, this super easy and fun to read book will help you.  I have read and reviewed it many times.

MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I think Bedazzled is a fantastic film and I urge you to watch it and find out for yourself how this film relates to this week’s theme.

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I took my own advice and watched last week’s film recommendation again and each time I see this film I become more and more impressed with it for so many reasons.  You should check this film out.

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QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“What good is being the best,

if it brings out the worst in you.”

Source: Rodney Dangerfield

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I couldn’t have more respect for anyone than this guy who always claimed, “I don’t get no respect.”

THIS WEEK’S POLL 

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON SEEING AND HEARING

It seems that a third of us question what we see and are told.  If you wish more details, you can scroll down to last week’s post and view the complete results.

THIS WEEK’S JOKE

Sam was about to lose his small business, so she went to the church and prayed to win the lotto; but didn’t win.

The next day he was about to lose both his business and his car, so he went to the church and prayed he would win the lotto; but he still didn’t win.

On the third day, he was about to lose his business, his car and his house and prayed that he would win the lotto.

Suddenly he was surrounded by a blinding white light, and he heard the booming voice of God declare, “Hey, you have to meet me half way and at least buy a ticket.”

CONCLUSION

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06/01/15 – SEEING AND HEARING

THIS WEEK’S THEME: SEEING AND HEARING

This week’s theme comes from Chapter 40 of my book.

Ordinary people see and hear what they want to believe and rarely recognize things that are contrary to their beliefs.  And even when they do recognize contradictions, they tend to make excuses for what they saw and heard.

Whereas, the extraordinary person not only tries to see and hear what is really there, but even more important, the extraordinary person tries to see and hear what isn’t there.  

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Flatland: A Romance of Many Dimensions, was written in 1884 about the culture in the age of Queen Victoria, as well as describing life as viewed from various dimensions.  I’ve long since lost my copy, but I believe this book is free on iTunes.  The book makes a good argument that we see the world not as it is, but as we are. 

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This mind-bending early science fiction classic imagines life in a 2-dimensional world. It’s a universe populated by lines, squares, and circles, whose perfect flatness creates all new definitions of life, art, and society. Edwin A. Abbott, writing under the pseudonym of “A Square,” combines scathing social satire with a brilliant examination on how we all accept our limits of perception, and how much people who transcend these perceptions are often met with resistance. [Source:  iTunes]

MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I found Café to be a really fun and interesting movie that really illustrates this week’s theme so well.  I really hope you watch it.

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A good-hearted musician struggles to find a way to tell his beautiful barista coworker that he loves her, despite the fact that she is in a relationship. Meanwhile, regulars and customers at the café where they work have their own problems and encounters. A police officer keeps his eye on his wayward cousin, who owes money to a charismatic dealer, and a married man contemplates his relationship with a good-looking new acquaintance. However, one customer learns he is in fact (Spoiler alert, so I stopped the description here).[Source:  IMDB]

QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are──or,

as we are conditioned to see it.”

Source: Stephen Covey

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THIS WEEK’S POLL (Please check as many as apply)

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON UNITED STATES WARS SINCE WWII

It seems 85% of you question why the U.S. always seems to be in a war; the remainder of you believe those wars have resulted in the world being a better place.

THIS WEEK’S JOKE

A man instead of going home like he usually does on Friday afternoons, stayed out the entire weekend hunting with the boys and spending his entire paycheck.

When he comes home, his angry wife yells at him for over an hour.

Finally, his wife stopped yelling and simply asked, “How would you like it if you didn’t see me for two or three days?”

He replied, “That would be fine with me”.

Monday went by and he didn’t see his wife.

Tuesday he didn’t see his wife.

Wednesday he didn’t see his wife.

Finally on Thursday, the swelling went down just enough to where he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.

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05/25/15 – Memorial Day

THIS WEEK’S THEME: GRATITUDE

Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the United States for remembering the people who died while serving in the country’s armed forces. The holiday originated as Decoration Day after the American Civil War in 1868, when the Grand Army of the Republic, an organization of Union veterans — established it as a time for the nation to decorate the graves of the war dead with flowers.

By the 20th century, competing Union and Confederate holiday traditions, celebrated on different days, had merged, and Memorial Day eventually extended to honor all Americans who died while in the military service. [Source:  Wikipedia]

So this week’s theme is gratitude (Chapter 31) for the sacrifice these  patriots made on behalf of their country.

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I think all those who served honorably in the military units of any country deserve respect, whether it be 2,000 years ago in a Roman Legion or sometime in the distance future in Star Fleet. 

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Since Memorial Day is a day to express our gratitude to fallen warriors that gave their lives, I thought this book would be appropriate.  I have read and reviewed it may times and found it provides helpful instructions on life.

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Living and dying with bravery and honor is at the heart of Hagakure, a series of texts written by an eighteenth-century samurai, Yamamoto Tsunetomo. It is a window into the samurai mind, illuminating the concept of bushido (the Way of the Warrior), which dictated how samurai were expected to behave, conduct themselves, live, and die. [Source:  Amazon]

MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I had a very difficult time selecting a movie that both in my mind addressed the Memorial Day holiday and gratitude or lack of gratitude.  I kept coming back to Born on the Fourth of July, but it is such a painful movie to watch. You really may want to skip this recommendation.  It took me a number of tries to get through it and I hope I never watch again.  

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The biography of Ron Kovic. Paralyzed in the Vietnam war, he becomes an anti-war and pro-human rights political activist after feeling betrayed by the country he fought for. (Source:  IMDB)

QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

War, what is it good for?

Absolutely nothin’!”

Source: Edwin Starr

Check out Edwin Starr’s video “War” on You Tube, there are several versions.  The Motown version does a good job of conveying the meaning of the song.

THIS WEEK’S POLL (Please check as many as apply)

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON ENDURANCE

Over 75% of you have stuck with something for 21 years or more.

THIS WEEK’S JOKE

An American general, a Russian general and a British general are standing on the deck of a ship watching war exercises.

The topic of discussion turns to human courage, and the Russian general boasts, “Russians are the most courageous people on Earth!”

Upon which the American challenges him.

The Russian says, “Yuri! Jump off the deck (into the freezing
Atlantic) and swim around the ship!”

Yuri marches off without a word, and does as he is told. The Russian turns
around and says: “See, there’s an example of courage!”

The American has to top this, so he calls up one of his sailors and gives
him the order: “Jack, Jump off the main mast into the ocean, and swim around the ship seven times!”

Jack goes off without a murmur, and he too does as he is told. The
American general says: “Now top that for courage!”

So they both turn around to the British general who has been standing around watching these antics silently.

They ask him: “What about your people?”

The British guy calls up one of his people and says: “Trevor, jump off the
mast and swim under the keel of the ship, will you, old chap?”

Trevor stares at his general.
“Let me get this right. You want me to jump off the mast.”

“Yes.”

“And swim under the keel”

“Yes.”

“You must be daft!”

And so saying, Trevor turns around and saunters off.

Whereupon the British general turns to the other two and says,
“Now there’s an example of TRUE courage!”

CONCLUSION

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03/30/15 FRIENDS

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON THE DIVERSITY IN YOUR LIFE

I seems like most of us (56%) would like to increase the diversity in our lives a little, which I think is good.  And 31% of you are satisfied with the diversity in your life.  I’ll stay positive and assume that they are satisfied with the diversity in their lives because they have a diverse group of people in their life.  I am really impressed by the 13% of you that think the diversity in your life should be increased a lot.  One can’t cure anything, if one refuses to recognize the need for a cure or change.

 

THIS WEEK’S THEME: FRIENDS

Last Friday, I was in Grand Rapids for the Michigan APF (American Powerlifting Federation) meet and I took first place in two categories as well as set state records in those categories pending approval of my “record” request.  I was the oldest lifter that day, so I was in categories by myself.  Notice that I said I was the oldest lifter of the day, I was not the oldest lifter in the 2-day contest.  My friend Nora, who is 72 lifted the following day.

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So often when I mention exercise to people, I immediate hear about some sort of aliment that prevents them from exercising.  Well, if Nora can power lift, you can exercise.  And it you don’t exercise, visualize what you will be like at 72.  It is never too late to start some type of exercise. 

Although I was the only one in my category, that did not diminish my  pride in returning to competition–it felt absolutely fantastic and I am anxious to do better next contest.  Now, you may be wondering what does my powerlifting experience have to do with this week’s theme–Friends.

I would never have got into powerlifting, had I not started training with my  childhood friend, Tony Mangino.

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I lost one of the best friends a person could ever hope to have when Tony died.

I had another good friend who was my coach and training partner, who got me to enter my first powerlifting contest.  He was Walter Crescentini, the fellow on the left as you look at the photo below.

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In 2013, Walter died and I miss him.  I work out alone today at the gym, but I still sense Tony and Walter’s encouragement.

I had quit competition back in 2003 due to a shoulder injury that required surgery.  I never thought I would be in competition again, until Art Little, a most extraordinary trainer as well as all around great person,  convinced me that I still had a little something left in me.  I would never had been at that contest last week, if it were not for Art; nor would I have been permitted to lift had Art not rushed up and saved the day.

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So what does powerlifting have to do with friends.  Well, friends are never jealous of your success, in fact, they encourage you to be successful and occasionally insist upon it.

 

THIS WEEK’S JOKE

Sorry for reusing a joke from my book, but I just really like this joke and wanted to share it with all the readers of this blog.

Friendship Between Women:

   A woman didn’t come home one night.

The next day she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend’s house.

The man called his wife’s 10 best friends.

None of them knew about it.

Friendship Between Men:

A man didn’t come home one night.

The next day he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend’s house.

The woman called her husband’s 10 best friends.

Eight of them confirmed that he had slept over…

Two claimed that he was still there.

 

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WEEK 27: FRIENDS – BE A FRIEND AND YOU WILL HAVE FRIENDS

As I mentioned, a true friend is one who is not jealous of your success and even encourages you to be successful. They will even risk their friendship with you to try to stop you from making a big mistake. 

We may have a number of acquaintances and some we may even call friends and such people can add to our lives.  But, they are not the same as true friends and one should not expect much from them unless it somehow serves their purposes and not yours.  That is a fine and useful arrangement, just don’t mistake them for true friends.

A true friend is an extraordinary gift that you should treasure.   And it you want true friends, you have to be one.

 

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I read Choosing Civility back in 2004 and have reviewed it a number of times since then.  It contains a lot of advice on connecting with people, which will help you on your quest to surround yourself with true friends.

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MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I got a kick out of watching Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion and believe you also enjoy this very funny film.

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Two dense, inseparable friends hit the road for their 10-year high school reunion and concoct an elaborate lie about their lives in order to impress their classmates. (Source:  IMDB) 

 

QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.

Source: Thomas Aquinas

 

THIS WEEK’S POLL

CONCLUSION

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03/23/15 Diversity

RESULTS OF LAST WEEK’S POLL ON TRAVEL TO OTHER COUNTRIES

I find it amazing that 13% of you have been to 11 or more countries and that another 52% of you have been to three or more countries.  For those of you that haven’t traveled much, if you are physically able to do so, I urge you give it a try.

 

THIS WEEK’S THEME: DIVERSITY

As you know, I’ve been in Spain for a little while and didn’t return to the U.S.A. until Wednesday.  Travel certainly has a impact on a person, for example below is a photo of me when I first arrived in Spain.

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And the photo below was taken towards the end of my trip.

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I don’t really know if you will experience the dramatic change I did, but travel changes you by bringing you into contact with folks different from yourself.   I met fellow travelers from Australia, Israel and other places in addition to the Spanish people I came into contact with and of course our most extraordinary tour guide from Portugal, Rui

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Rui managed to get us on another plane home, when the Lufthansa Airline pilots went on strike the morning of our scheduled departure.

So this week’s post is dedicated to “Diversity” in all the many forms that it may take.

 

THIS WEEK’S JOKE

 

What’s the difference between a tornado and a redneck divorce?

Either way someone’s going to lose a trailer

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WEEK 28: TRAVEL – GROW BY SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE DIFFERENT FROM YOURSELF

It has been said that we don’t see the world as it is, but as we are.  So if you want to broaden your perspective, you need to enlarge your circle of friends to include people different in any number of ways from yourself.  This will result in your growth, because every interaction leaves a trace on you.

When I was in Cordoba last week, I visited the “Mezquita de Cordoba”, which was once the largest masque in the world.  During the 16th century, it was turned into a cathedral.

The site is believed to be originally a temple to the Roman god, Janus.

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Those columns in the above photo are reclaimed Roman columns gathered from various places to build this mosque.

After the re-conquest of Cordoba, in the center of the mosque was built a beautiful cathedral.

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As we were walking about this beautiful and inspiring structure, we came to an area where the floor was removed so that you see below to a place of worship that was created by the Visigoths who seized Corboba in 572, I believe from the Romans.

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How I look at all this is that a diverse group of people, unwillingly of course, each contributed to something marvelous.  Just imagine what people could create if they would put their differences aside.

 

SELF-HELP BOOKS IN ADDITION TO MY OWN

I’m really not much of a sports fan, but I read Charles Barkley’s book back in April 2006 and have reviewed it a number of times over the years.  I found it to be an enjoyable book to read and contains many insights.

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MOVIE OF THE WEEK

I still think Crash is one of the best diversity films I have ever watched, but if you know of a film that represents diversity as well or better, please let all of us know about it by commenting.

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Los Angeles citizens with vastly separated lives collide in interweaving stories of race, loss and redemption. (Description source:  IMDB) 

QUOTE FOR THE WEEK

“A lot of different flowers make a bouquet.”

Source: Muslim Origin

THIS WEEK’S POLL

CONCLUSION

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Trust

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Bill was talking to his neighbor Fred and says, “I really trust my wife, and I think she has always been faithful to me. But there’s always that doubt.”

Fred says, “Yeah, I know what you mean.”

Bill adds, “I’m going on a business trip for a few days, would you mind watching my house?  I mean, I trust my wife but there’s always that doubt.”

Fred agrees and when Bill returns, Fred says, “I have some bad news for you.  The day after you left I saw a car pull up in front of your house. Your wife ran out and got into the car and they drove away. Later, after dark, the car came back. I saw your wife and a strange man get out. They went into the house and I saw a light go on, so I ran over and looked in the window. Your wife was kissing the man. Then he took off his shirt and then… they turned off the light.”

“Then what happened?” says Bill.

Fred replies, “I don’t know. It was too dark to see.”

Bill says, “You see what I mean? There’s always that doubt.”

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You should be cautious in your business affairs, but in general, you should trust people because most people are trustworthy most of the time.  After all, what does your words say about you, if you say you believe everyone is a cheat.  Extraordinary people believe most people are trustworthy, at least until people demonstrate otherwise.

So trust, but not to the point of being foolish.  For instance, if a deal seems to be too good to be true, it probably isn’t true. In your business dealings, you should try to pay a fair price for goods & services rendered. If you drive too hard for a bargain or take advantage of someone in a difficult situation, it could come back to bite you in other ways, such as through shoddy work.

As for trusting too little or trusting too much, it is better to be too trusting and occasionally be disappointed than it is to always be on guard to the point of missing interesting experiences and knowing many wonderful people.

And always remember that you cannot be extraordinary if you aren’t trustworthy yourself, since others will not want to do business with you or be your friend.

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He always believed that people live up or down to the amount of trust you put in them.”
Source:  Hillary Duff, Elixir

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Risk Film:  American Hustle

A con man, Irving Rosenfeld, along with his seductive partner Sydney Prosser, is forced to work for a wild FBI agent, Richie DiMaso, who pushes them into a world of Jersey powerbrokers and mafia. (Source:  IMDB – http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1800241/)

 

Communications

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Communicate – Listen to Others and Put Thought into Your Communications

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A cat said, “Meow”

A second cat said, “Meow, Meow”

The first cat said, “Don’t change the subject”

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Ordinary people often fall into one of two groups of poor communicators.  The first group say very little and if pushed give vague answers so as to offend no one.  The second group talks nonstop, but they say very little.  When these people do listen, it is to formulate their reply, rather than understand.

Whereas, extraordinary people listen to understand. They also pay close attention to what is not said, since there sometimes can be more meaning in what is not said, than what is said.  They never stay out of touch very long with friends and associates, yet they keep their words to a minimum.

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The tongue has the power of life and death.

“Who are you hurting today?

Who are you bringing back to life?”

Source:  Stafford Whiteaker

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Film Suggestion:  A Thousand Words

Distributed by Paramount and Dream Works Pictures

(After stretching the truth on a deal with a spiritual guru, literary agent Jack McCall finds a Bodhi tree on his property.  Its appearance holds a valuable lesson on the consequences of every word we speak.

Source:  IMDB