Last weeks post contained a poll asking what is your favorite Thanksgiving Day movie. Twenty-four of you voted and Planes, Trains and Automobiles was the clear winner with over 50% of the votes casted.  Just click on “View Results” of last week’s posting to see the complete results.


If you have ideas for future polls, just leave a comment or send me an email at HarmonyBooksFlimsLLC@comcast.net


This week is Thanksgiving and before we know it 2015 will be here and so I thought it was time to start thinking about New Years resolutions or goals.  I realize many ordinary people don’t believe in making New Years resolutions or setting goals and they may even be ok with not accomplishing anything particularly extraordinary in 2015.  Still, it is likely that some of these ordinary people will do a few extraordinary things during 2015.

However, I suspect that if you want more from life than just being an ordinary person, you are going to have to set some concrete goals and there is no better time than now.

By concrete, I mean they need to be objectively measurable in terms of quantity, quality and time.  For instance, I want to write a book, is not a concrete goal, merely a wish.  However, I will write and have a book published, which will sell 100 copies by December 31, 2014 is a concrete goal.  To achieve concerete goals, you need to have action plans and periodically monitor your progress towards the goal.

I would start developing my 2015 goals now, since it is likely you will want to refine them, so that come January 1, 2015 you are ready to go.

Since we are speaking of New Year’s goals or resolutions, I have to tell you about this girl I know.  She told me that she made a New Year’s resolution to eat better.  I thought that is a good start.  Then, she added, “From now on, I’m only going to date guys who can afford to take me to expensive restaurants.”



As much as I would like everyone to read my self-help book,

My Final Cover


there are some great self-help books available that you must read.

One of the best and also one that changed my life was Steven Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.  I am very proud that I got to speak one-on-one with the great Steven Covey and he autographed his book for me.

Steven Covey
If any of you have a favorite self-help book, I hope you will let us all know about it via a comment to this post.


I really liked this movie and I think you will also; not only is it very entertaining, it contains a number of great messages, which is what being extraordinary is all about.

Bucket List


If you have a favorite movie related to goals/resolutions, pleasee let us all know about it via a comment to this post.


I tried making this post valuable to you and hopefully if I have succeeded, you will pass it on to your friends and people you care about.  And if you have suggestions on how I can make these Monday posts even more helpful to you, please let me know.

Thank you



We have a few weeks before Thanksgiving, but I thought you may find it interesting to see the various Thanksgiving Day films people like.  I listed a few, but if your favorite isn’t there, you can mention it in the comments.  It is easy to comment, just click on the line below the survey that says “November 17, 2014 – Leave A Comment – Edit





Bill was talking to his neighbor Fred and says, “I really trust my wife, and I think she has always been faithful to me. But there’s always that doubt.”

Fred says, “Yeah, I know what you mean.”

Bill adds, “I’m going on a business trip for a few days, would you mind watching my house?  I mean, I trust my wife but there’s always that doubt.”

Fred agrees and when Bill returns, Fred says, “I have some bad news for you.  The day after you left I saw a car pull up in front of your house. Your wife ran out and got into the car and they drove away. Later, after dark, the car came back. I saw your wife and a strange man get out. They went into the house and I saw a light go on, so I ran over and looked in the window. Your wife was kissing the man. Then he took off his shirt and then… they turned off the light.”

“Then what happened?” says Bill.

Fred replies, “I don’t know. It was too dark to see.”

Bill says, “You see what I mean? There’s always that doubt.”


You should be cautious in your business affairs, but in general, you should trust people because most people are trustworthy most of the time.  After all, what does your words say about you, if you say you believe everyone is a cheat.  Extraordinary people believe most people are trustworthy, at least until people demonstrate otherwise.

So trust, but not to the point of being foolish.  For instance, if a deal seems to be too good to be true, it probably isn’t true. In your business dealings, you should try to pay a fair price for goods & services rendered. If you drive too hard for a bargain or take advantage of someone in a difficult situation, it could come back to bite you in other ways, such as through shoddy work.

As for trusting too little or trusting too much, it is better to be too trusting and occasionally be disappointed than it is to always be on guard to the point of missing interesting experiences and knowing many wonderful people.

And always remember that you cannot be extraordinary if you aren’t trustworthy yourself, since others will not want to do business with you or be your friend.


He always believed that people live up or down to the amount of trust you put in them.”
Source:  Hillary Duff, Elixir


Risk Film:  American Hustle

A con man, Irving Rosenfeld, along with his seductive partner Sydney Prosser, is forced to work for a wild FBI agent, Richie DiMaso, who pushes them into a world of Jersey powerbrokers and mafia. (Source:  IMDB – http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1800241/)




Communicate – Listen to Others and Put Thought into Your Communications


A cat said, “Meow”

A second cat said, “Meow, Meow”

The first cat said, “Don’t change the subject”


Ordinary people often fall into one of two groups of poor communicators.  The first group say very little and if pushed give vague answers so as to offend no one.  The second group talks nonstop, but they say very little.  When these people do listen, it is to formulate their reply, rather than understand.

Whereas, extraordinary people listen to understand. They also pay close attention to what is not said, since there sometimes can be more meaning in what is not said, than what is said.  They never stay out of touch very long with friends and associates, yet they keep their words to a minimum.


The tongue has the power of life and death.

“Who are you hurting today?

Who are you bringing back to life?”

Source:  Stafford Whiteaker


Film Suggestion:  A Thousand Words

Distributed by Paramount and Dream Works Pictures

(After stretching the truth on a deal with a spiritual guru, literary agent Jack McCall finds a Bodhi tree on his property.  Its appearance holds a valuable lesson on the consequences of every word we speak.

Source:  IMDB